The Handshake

I have the awesome opportunity to be my son's science teacher. Everyday before or after class he makes sure that he receives his daily firm handshake. I first thought nothing of it, until I finally realized, my son was validating another shift in our relationship. He's a teenager! He's moving away from the hugs to handshakes. He's moving away from saying Daddy to Dad. Wow! I almost missed it, he's growing up fast before me.

Now I can't wait until the time at school, when my son extends his hand for his daily handshake with Dad.

Son's Validation

One evening my oldest son asked me a very interesting question. No, it was not the birds and the bees question, but it was, "Dad do I look like you?" He also said, "Will I look like you when I become a man?" I said, "Of course you look like me son and when you become a man, you will look just like your dad." My son leaped with excitement and said, "Hurray! I am going to look just like daddy when I become a man."

Now this was not just some moment of entertainment or silliness. My son was seeking validation of his identity by asking those questions. He used me as his standard to measure his manhood. I am glad that I am a father in the home but what happens to the son whose father is present, but ignores the question? What happens to the son who looks for his father, but he is not there? What happens to the child who has never seen his father?

Fathers make a BIG difference in the development of their children. I only hope more fathers will realize the difference they can make.

Fathers Make A Difference

The future of the family really lies upon the effectiveness of the father to guide the family on the path that leads to prosperity and success for all who are connected with the family unit.

One word from a father can either build up a child or quickly tear the child down. Fathers have an important role in building and a lesser role in tearing down. Let's spend more time pouring into our children to ensure their success and prosperity.